Well I’m here on Wednesday so there is that. Haha! I got diagnosed in a similar way. I didn’t realize anything was different til I had kids. But I worked from home so it still wasn’t so obvious to me til I stopped working from home. Balancing that with very small kids, I was needing answers right away as to why it wasn’t working. And then I remembered that years prior a therapist thought I might have adhd. So I saw my primary care provider and it was a relief to get answers and support!
Hah! Oh gosh, I can't believe I never replied to me. (HELLO, ADHD!). I'm not surprised that there are more of us who didn't realize anything was different until kids. I'm so glad you were able to get diagnosis through your primary care provider! I feel like not enough people know that they can diagnose you, too. Well, assuming they have good knowledge of ADHD, which isn't always the case... How do you think the diagnosis has changed things for you?
Totally totally. And yeah, it has been a game changer. I am able to find tools that support me better, than prior to my diagnosis. And honestly, I am able to find my joy through things like special interests or just being my weirdo self.
I can relate, but not with an official diagnosis! I've been diagnosed with a number of mental health conditions over the years (depression, BPD, eating disorder, etc), but I've always been especially troubled with things like time management, focus, brain fog. In grad school I felt like I was very different from everyone else because it seemed like my peers could study at the computer for hours and I just. could. not. Since becoming a mom, my executive functioning challenges are way more apparent - there's just so much cognitive and mental load with being a parent. A lot of the therapeutic supports I get currently are helpful, though I wonder what it would be like to feel like I can focus with greater ease. Thank you for sharing your story! I hope getting a diagnosis & support has made life and motherhood smoother.
Thanks for sharing. I didn't realise that talking fast and the racing thoughts could be part of ADHD! Thanks for the book recommendations I'm going to investigate more!
I'm hi hello I just found your page and it turns out we're twins.
I'm your friendly neighborbood bi ADHDer mom raising a toddler too!!
I got diagnosed this past fall at age 29. My experience was so similar to yours! Researching on my own first, then pursuing formal diagnosis. No one in my family ever suspected a thing because I was a "gifted" kid high achiever.
I didn't ever suspect anything until the past few years, then it came to a head when I left my corporate job and started my career coaching business. Suddenly I didn't have all my structure and coping mechanisms and I realized how heavily I had used them.
I was lucky and was referred by a friend to an amazing psychiatrist in Nashville who got me the formal diagnosis (boring computer test and all) without any angst or waiting. They're The Willows in Nashville if anyone is in TN!
Well I’m here on Wednesday so there is that. Haha! I got diagnosed in a similar way. I didn’t realize anything was different til I had kids. But I worked from home so it still wasn’t so obvious to me til I stopped working from home. Balancing that with very small kids, I was needing answers right away as to why it wasn’t working. And then I remembered that years prior a therapist thought I might have adhd. So I saw my primary care provider and it was a relief to get answers and support!
Hah! Oh gosh, I can't believe I never replied to me. (HELLO, ADHD!). I'm not surprised that there are more of us who didn't realize anything was different until kids. I'm so glad you were able to get diagnosis through your primary care provider! I feel like not enough people know that they can diagnose you, too. Well, assuming they have good knowledge of ADHD, which isn't always the case... How do you think the diagnosis has changed things for you?
Totally totally. And yeah, it has been a game changer. I am able to find tools that support me better, than prior to my diagnosis. And honestly, I am able to find my joy through things like special interests or just being my weirdo self.
Omg me too about the kid part!! That's when I also realized I was an HSP because I was loosing my mind with the screaming.
I can relate, but not with an official diagnosis! I've been diagnosed with a number of mental health conditions over the years (depression, BPD, eating disorder, etc), but I've always been especially troubled with things like time management, focus, brain fog. In grad school I felt like I was very different from everyone else because it seemed like my peers could study at the computer for hours and I just. could. not. Since becoming a mom, my executive functioning challenges are way more apparent - there's just so much cognitive and mental load with being a parent. A lot of the therapeutic supports I get currently are helpful, though I wonder what it would be like to feel like I can focus with greater ease. Thank you for sharing your story! I hope getting a diagnosis & support has made life and motherhood smoother.
Thanks for sharing. I didn't realise that talking fast and the racing thoughts could be part of ADHD! Thanks for the book recommendations I'm going to investigate more!
I'm hi hello I just found your page and it turns out we're twins.
I'm your friendly neighborbood bi ADHDer mom raising a toddler too!!
I got diagnosed this past fall at age 29. My experience was so similar to yours! Researching on my own first, then pursuing formal diagnosis. No one in my family ever suspected a thing because I was a "gifted" kid high achiever.
I didn't ever suspect anything until the past few years, then it came to a head when I left my corporate job and started my career coaching business. Suddenly I didn't have all my structure and coping mechanisms and I realized how heavily I had used them.
I was lucky and was referred by a friend to an amazing psychiatrist in Nashville who got me the formal diagnosis (boring computer test and all) without any angst or waiting. They're The Willows in Nashville if anyone is in TN!
Anyway, it's awesome to e-meet you!
Oh! The book that made me realize I have ADHD is called Extra Focus by Jesse Anderson. He used to be on substack but he left it.